I wonder if it’s an issue with your phone as I’ve never had those problems. Be sure your phone’s operating system is updated to the latest version and restart it.
Have you spent some time with the online owners’ manual or the manual that’s visible through the touch screen? I found the answers to your questions in just a couple quick minutes by opening the online manual and doing a search for “high beam” and “rain sensor.” I agree tho, generally manufacturers are assuming people know more than they do or will just figure it out.
I also was disappointed when the coat hook fell out, until I realized that the port it attaches to also doubles as a spot to attach a luggage / pet barrier. I actually appreciate that it’s hidden in that way instead of having a separate spot with a plastic cover that for most owners goes unused 100% of the time. They could make it a little harder to accidentally remove the coat hook tho.
I personally disagree that the car lacks personality. I have considered trading it in for a new Range Rover Evoque when my subscription is up next summer, but there’s one that parks near me in my building and it looks so boring compared to my XC40. Like a pretty handbag that looks nice but you won’t think about it after you see it. I even got a brand new $65k Velar as a service loaner and the interior seemed so boring.. it was like a slightly more refined Cadillac and that’s not really a compliment. I was so glad to get my XC40 back.
I’ll say this, though, Volvos just aren’t as thoughtful on the details like a Mercedes, for example. Volvo has always sacrificed some of that refinement for things like safety, quality, comfort, and uniqueness of their visual design. I do notice those missing details and at first they aggravated me, but the car overall is great. I hope Volvo will not shortcut overall quality as they seek to aggressively expand their footprint in the auto market. For now I personally am happy with the balance.
I hope you come to appreciate and like your car more with time..