I seemed to run into a weird bug in the permissions page where if I flipped more than one of the I think three privacy options at a time, it would mark them as enabled but as soon as I exited that settings page and came back, only the very first option I enabled would still be enabled. I think that's what messed up my first pairing experience since I did t catch it until after I had paired my phone. I ended up factory resetting the car, deleting the app from my phone, and starting over.
Once I did that, I followed the pairing instructions on the thread sticky and after enabling each privacy setting, completely exiting the settings page and then going back in to enable the next one, repeating until all three showed enabled. That process seemed to work for me and after the waiting game as described above (for me at least it was overnight), locks, climate, and charge all work. I'm pretty sure my car is on the June firmware revision.
Hope this helps someone else. I love my car but voc pairing process just seems really stupid and poorly thought out. Too many steps and places where if you deviate even slightly in the process, hoses it up completely.